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The first workbook designed for counsellors to help abusers recognise and deal with the issues underlying their behaviour. ... Read more

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Domestic Violence
Excellent text for those of us who work with domestic violence offenders. A wonderful addition to my library

An excellent book for DV treatment providers
The individual that used to co-facilitated Domestic Violence Treatment groups with me found this book here and ordered it for us to use.We both appreciated the different topics provided in the book, the way it wasset-up, the many great assignments to use in group and how issues arepresented.It follows the Duluth model, which is what our program follows. The gentlemen in group also enjoy the activities and find the materialinteresting and applicable.I strongly recommend this book to others touse individually or in the group setting.I have looked through a varietyof different books to use in group, though was never instantly attracted toany...though this one was different.The assignments/activities in thebook are done in such a way that many of the group members share theinformation with their partners, thus perpetuating the learning cycle. ... Read more

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SURVIVING DOMESTIC VIOLENCE tells the stories of twelve women. Each was a victim of domestic violence, escaped from her abuser, reclaimed her dignity, reconstructed her life, and rediscovered peace. Domestic violence doesn’t just happen "out there" somewhere. It happens in our town, in our neighborhood, on our street. It happens to women we see at work, the supermarket, the movie theater, the ballet and the PTA board meeting. Every woman who has left an abusive man—every woman who has yet to leave—will find encouragement and hope in the voices of these women who broke free. ... Read more

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Amazing
This is such an amazing book!!It's a must for anyone affected by abuse--physical, psycological, or emotional.It validated all of my feelings and justified my leaving even further.The book also helped me realize that I'd been suffering the psycological abuse long before the physical began.

Awesome
This was a great look at personal accounts of domestic violence.This book shows there is no typical DV victim profile.It can happen to anyone.This book also challenges some beliefs out there.The author asks us to stop blaming the victim and instead of asking why the victim does not leave, we should ask why the abuser commits the abuse. Very good.

stirred up painful memories.helped unravel why it happened
It's been going on 12 years since I escaped my abuser.I'm back to school now, working on a social work degree.I want to help others in ways I wanted to be helped back then.While researching material for a research paper on domestic violence I happened across this book.It came to me, along with several others, from the library, borrowed for research.

From the moment I picked it up and sat down with the purpose to skim it for relevant data on a Friday night, until late Sunday night, when I finished it, I was riveted with the stories of the women who were told within the pages.I couldn't just skim with this book.I had to read every page of it, allowing it to dig up memories within myself that had been forcefully buried years ago.

Dr. Weiss does an extraordinary job in telling the stories of these women without any "props" to make their reality any better or worse than what it was.I like the way she begins with her own story in the beginning and then, when telling the others', she uses examples from her relationship with her ex husband to emphasize just how much she identifies with the brave and courageous women who found often ingenious ways to escape from the oppression of their batterers.

Dr. Weiss has the sensitivity and the writing skills to be able to articulate the often subtle aspects of domestic violence.She helps those readers who may not have been victims but who want to learn more about domestic violence to see that it is much more than about blatant physical battering.

I want to thank Dr. Weiss for writing the book and honoring the lives of the women who are in it.I want to thank the women whose stories aretold for being shining beacons to those who might read them and gather hope and strength from them.

Perhaps the most powerful messages from Dr. Weiss' book are that women CAN escape from horrific battering circumstances; and that if you see a batterer victimizing their significant other in a public place, acknowledge it!Your acknowledgement could very well become the victim's beacon of light they focus on to find their way out of the darkness.

Excellent DV Resource Book
I have been working with domestic violence victims for about 7 years.I love this resource book.Ms. Weiss shows compassion for victims while she gives practical, safe advice for victims, their families and friends.I have already lent it to a victim as she was preparing to leave her abusive husband.Keep writing your books, Ms. Weiss and I will keep reading!Stacey M. Geurds, Esq.

Read it
Well written and filled with practical advice, heartbreaking case studies and a sound voice of independence and advocacy.Here is a book that those who suffer or have suffered must read - and those who love them need to understand. ... Read more

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Domestic abuse is very complex and can take many different forms - physical, sexual, psychological, emotional and verbal. The five sections of the workbook help participants learn skills for recognizing and effectively dealing with abusive relationships. The reproducible self-assessments, exercises, journaling activities and educational handouts are created for therapists, counselors, psychologists, and other helping professionals. ... Read more

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Must have
This is an extremely valuable tool for use in a group or individually.There are dozens of printable check-lists and self-evaluation work sheets that save time and allow clients to see themselves in a stark new light.Clients' eyes are suddenly opened and progress toward healing takes a giant leap forward. ... Read more

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Second only to survivors of war and victims of rape, women who are severely assaulted by their husbands or partners are the group of trauma victims most likely to suffer from the symptoms of post-traumatic stress disorder, or PTSD. Researchers estimate that as many as 80 percent of these women will manifest signs of the disorder in the months and years following an assault. Until now there has been no book specifically written to help these women deal with PTSD. This sensitive and compassionate book, at last, offers them hope.

The book opens with a description of PTSD and a self-diagnostic tool that helps readers figure out whether or not they are actually suffering from PTSD. Then, chapter-by-chapter, it delves into specific problems associated with the disorder. Worksheets reinforce the messages in the text. In addition to addressing the symptoms of PTSD, the book offers readers strategies they can employ when and if a confrontation with the abusive partner becomes necessary. ... Read more

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Allison
Fabulous book !! It is right on point about PTS. Step by step it guides you on how to deal with it.

Would recommend to others
Product arrived on time and in fantastic shape...will definitely order from this company again.Looking forward to it!

Excellent Resource for Recovery from Abusive Relationship!
I am a survivor of a verbally and emotionally abusive relationship.I've read many self-help books on recovering from abuse and found this book to the the BEST!Each chapter specifically addressed issues I needed to deal with.I found the chapters on guilt and hind-sight bias to be LIFE CHANGING, not just with abuse recovery issues, but issues from throughout my life.

If you are still in an abusive relationship, get out first, then get this book to help heal.It is helping me tremendously and I would highly recommend it.

A Must Have !!!
This is an amazing workbook, that has helped myself tremendously !!! I highly recomend this book, for it combines reading & your feedback through the exercises !!! Very insightful & really helps a survivor of Domestic Violence & PTSD, understand why you feel the way you feel, that it is normal & you are not alone !!!! Answers so many questions & assesment tool is wonderful. I have shared this book w/ my Therapist & my Counselor @ my Domestic Violence Group. Please if you suffer any of this, Get the Book, Highly recommend it...Good Luck & we are Survivors !!!

Battered Women Syndrome Primer for Poltical/Medical Funding?
This book is specifically designed as a workbook for those who have suffered from "Battered Women's Syndrome" and/or other aspects of "domestic violence". I find much irony in Dr. Kubany's advice that "one needs to be out of an abusive relationship, before using this workbook"! I do understand the book's assertions because half of the battle in fighting abuse is escaping from abusive people, but there are such rampant social abuses that this book fails to address as contributing factors!

The book seems to commercialize many aspects of "relationship abuse" that one might not be able to be aware of on their own if they are "stuck in an abusive relationship", and are unable to find a strategy to escape their predicament, yet that is the premise of the workbook, to be "out of the relationship" before using this workbook.

As my personal experience with abuse has been far more complex than anything found in this primer, I found some of the exercises to be mundane reviews of personal reflections of self-worth...not my primary concern. There are, however, some helpful examples of reflective thought processes that prove to be useful, but in a very basic way, and is especially aimed towards those with low self-esteem.

If you are looking for something that addresses complex issues of abuses of political, legal, financial and/or familial/parental type abuses, this book fails that agenda. As I had also spoken personally with Dr. Kubany in Honolulu where he holds his practice, he sure doesn't seem too interested or capable in addressing or helping with far more complex PTSD issues, and seems even less interested in obtaining potential clients! I was very disappointed in the book, but even more so with a lack of professional concern in regards to victims of abuse in general, other than marketing abuse ideology and this book!

This attitude is all too prevalent in the psychology/psychiatry and medical fields. No wonder there are so many injured people without help...many whom have turned to drug and/or alcohol abuses "to escape their horrible lives". Unless you are on drugs and/or alcohol, the system fails you terribly! (Must be a federal/state/county funding failure???)

I have done much research on Complex PTSD, especially in relation to major financial and social politics and crimes and am happy to say that there is an attempt at the field with far more accurate information and favorable resources than was available even four years ago when this book was published in 2004.

This book will NOT specifically address other types of trauma except for a basic self-questionnaire regarding basic "old school theories" of causes of PTSD in relation to "battered woman syndrome" and/or "domestic violence", as well as the newer political catchphrase of "anger management". In my opinion, the majority of these "old school theories" are extremely outdated and lacking in current relativity to the rampant and ingrained levels of abuses in MANY aspects of our society, not just in relationships, and this book fails to recognize these as contributing factors, especially within the medical/psychiatric industries! I feel thatabusive relationships are more of a symptom of underlying contributing factors within our government, communities, schools, churches, professional work, etc...if not intertwined, and that "domestic violence" is only one example of how "violence" is ingrained in our abusive society. This book is seriously lacking in addressing these other contributing factors...

I find most theoretical aspects of abuse to be quite outdated in general, (or strategically omission based)although providing some basic awareness to potential causes of basic PTSD relative to unhealthy relationships and unhealthy attitudes in general.

I must add that the book's good points are in addressing the fact that it is a good workbook that will bring some self-awareness of one's own vulnerable and self-destructive habits and situations, especially in regards to personal relationships with self and by others. ... Read more

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A comprehensive, compassionate look at domestic violence--including historical, psychological, social, familial, and legal issues--this well-organized, accessible book offers the most current information available on prevention and recovery, along with practical steps for escaping a violent domestic situation. ... Read more

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the difference between violence and abuse
There is a crucial differences between male and female domestic violence. If a man isn't afraid of a woman's violence, it's not abuse. Fear is a defining factor.

Abuse is systematically controlling another person through intimidation and control in a sadly self-defeating attempt to get needs met. An abuser believe violence is justified in achieving this. Non-abusers may flip out sometimes, but they genuinely believe that violence is only justified in self-defense, and only in enough measure to protect ourselves or others.

Ironically, when a woman is continually abused, she become nervous, volatile, exhausted, and may even respond with verbal abuse and, rarely, physical violence (rarely because the male is usually more powerful.) Think: cornered animal.

When a man begins to change or behaves less violently, the deep anger women have been feeling but suppressing out of fear may finally come out, and not always in the nicest way. However, this is categorically different from abuse: punishing, strategic, intentional violence.

Sadly, men who are violent will use any excuse to defend their behavior. Hence, accusing their female targets of being abusers. That might be where the court statistics listed below come from (if they are even accurate). Ironically, many women don't prosecute their male abusers out of a misguided hope of helping them through nurture and communication instead. (In fact, it appears that real painful consequences are much more likely to motivate an abuser to change.)

Women aren't "better" than men for being statistically much less likely to be abusers. They simply don't have that option due to the reality of the comparable strength of their bodies and society's conditioning.

Think about this: How many women buy a gun and routinely wave it around to intimidate their husband to control his behavior? It seems absurd, doesn't it? What might the man do in response? Run away? Try to overpower her anyway? Yet men easily intimidate women in this way without that gun, simply because they are physically (and often financially) stronger.

Ironically, women who actually are abusive are said to be the hardest to rehabilitate. This is because a woman who goes against all of society's training to use brute force to try to get her needs met is usually severely mentally ill.

So... To the man who feels a need to bring up women's abuse in a review of a book designed to help men stop abusing and help women escape their abuse... What need does this fulfill in you? Why not stop denying and blaming others for your behavior and get help? Or recommend a good book that specifically targets helping women abusers to change and their male targets to free themselves from women's abuse? After all, isn't the purpose of these books to help both men and women...and their children?

Relationships in Crisis
This is a necessary read for any therapist working with couples in crisis. Understanding the criminal nature of battering, the state laws governing the offense, and the denial and minimizing of the act of violence by the victim is important for appropriate intervention and safety of the patient.

More male bashing propoganda
Unfortunately, rather than taking on a very important social issue with objectivity and truth, the book simply repeates completely unfounded propoganda that women are the victim in "85%+" of cases.Anyone interested, do what I did (/do) as part of my employment -- go to your local family court and watch on domestic violence day(s).No one will be able to pull the anti-male wool over your eyes after that.Men are the plaintiff in about 35% of the cases -- and we need to keep in mind that men are far less likely to step forward and are far more likely to be ridiculed, harassed, and treated dismissively at every step in the process (for example - 90%+ of all domestic violence shelters have "women" somewhere in their title...not exactly an invitation to a male who desperately needs help).

Sadly, this kind of "book" (with dubious sources when they bother to give a source at all) perpetuates the myths and does great harm by keeping the +/- 40% of victims who need help oppressed.

Great Book
Ladies, if you're a victim, read this book.(And I say "Ladies" because--despite what the woefully misinformed individual below tells his "clients"--women DO make up the HUGE majority of victims.)

In response
Just in response to a previous reviewer- As a domestic violence education professional, I assure you that all reputable sources on domestic violence agree that women make up the overwhelming majority of victims of DV (these statistics vary from the 80s to the high 90s in terms of percentages). ... Read more

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It's hard to know what to do when someone you care about is in an abusive relationship. Do you ask about it? What if you're wrong? Do you offer to help? Even at the risk of interfering?

If you have observed any of the following warning signs from a family member or friend, she may be a victim.You can help her--and, you might be saving her life!

WARNING SIGNS OF DOMESTIC ABUSE:

Unexplainable injuries
She has very little to say about her life
She becomes timid when her husband or boyfriend is around
She distances herself from people and acts withdrawn
Her social relationships have narrowed
He makes all the rules
He puts her down in public
She is afraid

Says author Elaine Weiss, who also wrote "Surviving Domestic Violence: Voices of Women Who Broke Free", Volcano Press, "Domestic violence doesn't just happen out there.It happens in our town, in our neighborhood, on our street.It happens to women we see at the supermarket, the movie theater, and the PTA. It happens to our friends and our co-workers.It happens to our mothers, our sisters, our daughters, and ourselves." ... Read more

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short and to the point
really handy for helping me figure out how best to talk to my friend and deal with my own preconceived notions and anger about the situation. not too in-depth, pretty basic, but super useful for the layperson. absolutely recommended.

BestAvailable Resource
As both a survivor and a counselor, I realize how difficult it is to explain the intricacies of a domestic violence situation, let alone how to help.This book is the best I've found, and believe me I've read a lot of books on the subject.I read it and immediately passed it on to someone else who could benefit from reading it.If more people understood, the world would be a better place.Buy it, read it, pass it on.

Excellent Resource!
Family and Friends Guide to Domestic Violence is an excellent book.It is written in simple understandable terms and gives hands on examples on how to help those in violent relationships.It also clearly explains some habits, and reasons for violence in relationships.The information is very straightforward, and honest.As an advocate working in a domestic violence shelter, I wish I had tons of these to hand out to families freely.I am impressed, and often refer this book to both colleages and families!

Practical answers to identifying signs of domestic abuse and helping victims
FAMILY AND FRIENDS' GUIDE TO DOMESTIC VIOLENCE provides practical answers to identifying signs of domestic abuse and helping victims. Not only are signs of abuse pointed out, from unexplained injuries to psychological reactions, but chapters tell how to listen, talk and take action which will help a friend. From overcoming a victim's isolation and fears to bolstering ego and finding help, here's the place to turn first.

Super Good
It has very good advice on how to deal with the situation. People will think you're a genius when you start telling them stuff from this book.

As far as I can tell, this lady is the #1 expert on domestic violence. ... Read more

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In this exciting new book John Hamel, author of the ground-breaking Gender-Inclusive Treatment of Intimate Partner Abuse, and Tonya Nicholls go beyond the traditional intervention theories of domestic violence practiced todayOffering alternative, unbiased and sometimes controversial views, theories, and current research, they, along with renowned contributors in the field, provide new treatment options that encompass a wide range of gender dynamics. Here are just some of the key principles covered:

* Interventions Should Be Based on a Thorough Unbiased Assessment

* Victim/Perpetrator Distinctions are Overstated, and Much Partner Abuse is Mutual

* Regardlss of Perpetrator Gender, Child Witnesses to Partner Abuse are Adversely Affected, and are at Risk for Perpetrating Partner Abuse as AdultsThis new gender-inclusive approach to assessment and intervention provides a significant departure from traditional paradigms of domestic violence, and offers a much-needed awareness to effectively prevent violence in our communities today and for future generations. ... Read more

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Breaks The GlassCeiling On DV Facts
There have been many chapters written on domestic and family violence and this book has 28 of the best that have ever been written on the subject. With its broad array of respected contributing authors from such a diverse range of experience it should be required reading for judges, attorneys, mediators and others who work in the field of family and juvenile law. This book is also a must read for any elected official, policy maker and their staff who are making decisions on legislation related to domestic violence policy and training. This book finally breaks the glass ceiling on the subject.I give it a solid 5 stars.

Michael Robinson
Policy Consultant & Lobbyist
Family & Juvenile Law Issues
Sacramento, CA

truth from the best in the BIZ
I facilate domestic violence groups.. This is the most comprehensive,up- to-date resource from the best and brightest minds in the field. I so appreciate having all this information in one book.

Very good reference book
A very helpful reference book useful for inclusive domestic violence treatment and counseling.It moves us from the former gender-divisive shame/blame approach to much more effective methods. ... Read more

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Is domestic violence strictly a male phenomenon? Are all women who abuse their partners acting in self-defense? Is domestic violence about male privilege, power and control? In this book, the author conducts a meticulous and thorough examination of the research on domestic violence, coming to the unsettling conclusion that virtually everything we think we know about domestic abuse is wrong. Exposing evidence of a deliberate governmental campaign to distort the truth and proliferate lies, Mr. James explains why honesty and candor are our only real hope for bringing an end to this enormous social problem. ... Read more

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Male victims exist
I work in a domestic violence program.I got interested in this work not only because I was a victim of psychological abuse in a previous relationship, but mostly because my husband was a victim of not only emotional and psychological abuse, but also physical abuse.His ex-wife would knock him unconscious with metal bars and ran him over with her car.She would hit him and scratch him whenever she could. Thankfully he only has some small scars and minimal mental impairment from his experiences with her. The thing I have found with him and other male victims I have met in the course of my work is that they almost never report.I don't know if it is a sense of shame or fear, all I know is that female towards male abuse does happen, but you rarely hear anything about it.Are more physical abusers men?Yes.Does this mean that women don't physically abuse? No.

The courts prosecute physical abuse, but what about emotional and psychological abuse?The victims (mostly female) I work with tell me that when their abusers beat them, it hurt, but the deepest scars they have and those they don't know if they will survive are the emotional and psychological scars.How many couples have you seen where all you hear is the woman criticizing and putting down her partner?She may not be hitting him physically, but how do you think he feels?How is his psyche affected?He is even less likely to report that or to leave.Even if he did try to report or tell someone, wouldn't most people just make fun of him?Male victims are mostly stuck.I try to help them when I find them, but most of them are too embarrassed or afraid to accept my or anyone else's assistance.

I do want to address the tone that some of the men have used in their comments.It is true that there are male victims and many, but we can't forget the thousands and probably millions of female victims out there.They suffer greatly and they still need all the help we can give them.We need to includes services for abused men, but not at the expense of our services for women.

Reality Check for BOTH Genders, and more importantly, all members of our Society
To the female who gives this book one star because she has been touched by domestic violence, I say, your emotional response is the need to understand the blatant sexism of the DV industry.Just because your gender is female, and you were affected/effected by DV, does NOT mean DV is limited in all cases to a man commits offence against woman. That may well have been the reality in your situation, but does not by default solve the deeper issue, which is a failure of the male/female dynamic across millions of people to resolve relationship dynamics issues without resorting to socially undesirable behavior. This is the type of emotively driven response to a situation which creates the base upon which propaganda is allowed to grow.Ever study the rise of Adolf Hitler?Hitler needed the frustrations of the German populace, and its search for easy answers and scapegoats, for his propaganda to root, and for his power and unquestioned leadership to grow to where he could accomplish his truly nefarious agendas.If I sound paranoid, good, I hope to shout if from the rooftops of the world, what is happening in the West at this point in time smacks of Sexual Fascism.

VAWA, VAWA II, IMBRA, and the host of swept-in legislation are nothing more than built upon a false propaganda that women are always victims and "passive recipients" (remember this type of concept from Freidan?and her anger over it?Even Betty Freidan once made a remark regarding DV between her and her husband that she was "no wallflower," although revisionists of her writings gloss over this, and continue to position her as a passive victim of abuse) of domestic violence, and men are completely responsible for the discord in a family home (how utterly patriachal!But if you think about it, THIS IS WHAT THIS legislation paradoxically presupposes.Welcome to the underlying contradictions in more radical feminism.Equality and power up until something goes wrong, then the man is presumed at fault, and the woman is a victim and entitled to compensation.What an INSULT to the individual strength and spirit of truly deserving individuals, REGARDLESS of gender.Both for the women who do deserve and earn their place in society on virtue of merit and contribution, not the false cards of victimization and entitlement, and also for men who are affected by such subterfuge).

It should have been the Domestic Violence Act.Not Violence Against Women Act.Then a public discourse over proactive, preventative measures could have been made, and the act would have actually been constitutional, and real scientific inquiry could be made into PROACTIVE and PREVENTATIVE ways to resolve situations which lead to unhealthy and undesired human interaction.REACTIVITY and the simple solution of determining a presumption of Abuser/Victim based upon gender and mandatory punishment and labelling is not helping to promote successful gender-rooted relationships, or family structures, or healthy homes for children.

The numbers in more scientific studies are clear.DV is a 60/40 matter when it involves physical confrontation. Why does Senator Biden's babies assume its 100%/0%?Pandering for votes, folks, and national publicity to make a bigger run one day.I would quit my job to campaign against this delusional man's condescending bone-toss to the feminist cause.The DV industry expands the definition of DV to insults and loud arguments.If that's true, I think the numbers are at best neck and neck. Women are more likely to abuse the children in the house than the male.Yes, I hear the argument women generally spend more time with children than the men.True, in the general population.Women are not by gender alone the protector of the family unit--2 out of 3 divorces are initiated by women.And regardless of deeper moral issues of abortion, 1 in 3 women in the U.S. will abort during their lifetime, leading to the question of why such a need for abortion, at least a couple of magnitudes higher than what the scientific evidence would suggest for responsible birth control usage.We need better, more responsible, more proactive answers, not only for the majority gender of our population and voting caucus (females, in case you don't know), but for society as a whole.

The idea that gender alone, namely being born female, assumes an individual a stronger position of emotional and moral superiority is smug and presumptuous.Is this the matriachal counter to the spectre of patriachal society I hear so much about?Physiologically, we are obviously different.This is science.This is nature.Nature clearly requires women to be the biological early nurturers of human life.This is an incredible responsibility if/when realized, and there is nothing EQUAL between the genders in that matter, in the issue of human sexual procreation purpose.Is that so hard to state in these matters?Perhaps these differences should be more deeply explored.The attraction of the sexes occurs at a deeper level than cognitive thought.Society needs to go deeper, and build a stronger foundation, otherwise, no matter how beautiful the building, it ends up being a leaning tower of Pisa.

The issue is not equality.Levels of influence, levels of affluence, in terms of society, should always be earned by an individual's value of contribution to society.The issue is EQUALITY OF OPPORTUNITY!I'm no utopian thinker, I realize in practice how the amoral nature of power must always be balanced against the welfare of society as a whole.Mancur Olsen's writings on the economic nature of feudalism evolving into capitalism come into play.The second wave of feminism's attraction to Marxist throught, whether outright or thinly veiled, is not effective or efficient in practice.

Books like this are essential for undoing a big web of lies and unsuported propaganda which in practice has the potential of doing much more harm than good to the fabric of our society.

Major Distortion of Domestic Violence
As a straight, white, heterosexual male from a red state, but who also works with Domestic Violence victims, I can assure you that Mr. James is well off the mark with this book. Though it would be nice if the stats were skewed and men were truly less responsible for violence in the household, it is simple not the case. This book is irresponsible scholarship, and a prime example of the type of prejudice that exists against the DV movement as a whole. It is no longer a "feminist" issue, but rather a "family" issue. Domestic Violence is a serious matter, that deserves serious scholarship, and this book does not meet that standard.

Got a Question
Are any of the men reviewing this book or the author of the book victims of DV?Haven't read it, but I was wondering.If that is the case, you have my attention.

The 12 Things You Aren't Supposed to Know!
A book of this type has been lacking for a long, long time!
Written by a MAN!
This is a newer book that looks at domestic violence from both the male perspective and the female perspective!
The law enforcement community should be required to read this book in its entirety. Most of the books being today used are way out of date.
An excellent read for anyone that deals with domestic violence.
It's a good read for people that aren't involved in domestic violence, as it possibly could open their eyes to their friends, neighbors, and relatives difficulties. ... Read more

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Domestic violence is endemic in our society, with an incident occurring every 18 seconds. Abuse of women is the single greatest cause of injury, more frequent than auto accidents, mugging and rape combined. A major issue facing mental health professionals is how to understand and deal with domestic violence in a society populated by a multiplicity of ethnic, cultural and linguistic groups. When and how to intervene is in part determined by an understanding of the victims' cultural surroundings. This book provides a framework for assessing and treating domestic violence, one that takes into account the multilayered interactions between individuals and their families, their ethnic groups and the larger society to which we all belong. ... Read more

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"This is an amazing study, a memoir which provides insight into family abuse in 18th century America.... a significant volume which enhances our knowledge of social and religious life in New England. It is also a moving contribution to the literature of spirituality." -- Review and Expositor

"Students of American culture are indebted to Ann Taves for editing this fascinating and revealing document and for providing it with full annotation and an illuminating introduction." -- American Studies International

"This is above all an eminently teachable text, which raises important issues in the history of religion, women, and the family and about the place of violence in American life." -- New England Quarterly

"... stimulating, enlightening, and provocative... "  -- Journal of Ecumenical Studies

Abigail Abbot Bailey was a devout 18th-century Congregationalist woman whose husband abused her, committed adultery with their female servants, and practiced incest with one of their daughters. This new, fully annotated edition of her memoirs, featuring a detailed introduction, offers a thoughtful analysis of the role of religion amidst the trials of the author's everyday life.

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As It Was in the Beginning, Is Now ...
... but let's hope it shall NOT forever be! The title of this study suggests a causal linkage between religion and domestic violence. That ISN'T the hypothesis the editor actually intends to present, though it may well be a question worth asking. Rather, editor Ann Taves offers the Memoirs of Abigail Abbot Bailey as a source document for the study of the religious mentality of devout 18th C "covenant" Congregationalists - what we usually call Puritans. Taves's 48-page introduction is as coherent an explication of "covenant" theology as I've ever read, written with respect and impartiality. Taves makes a good case that "covenant" theocracy contributed much to the evolution of democracy -- yes, that IS counter-intuitive! -- to the egalitarianism of American culture, and especially to the foundations of gender equality and universal suffrage. As Taves recounts, the emphasis on religion as a covenant was matched with a perception of marriage that stressed mutuality rather than patriarchal authority. For covenanters like Abigail Abbot, marriage was to be above all a spiritual companionship, a "friendship" as well as a practical domestic management unit. Abigail marries a man whom she knows is not a 'true Christian' in the covenant sense, but whom she hopes to convert and whom she expects to live with in faithful friendship. She persists in calling her husband, Asa Bailey, her "friend" until his abuse and infidelity justify her in denominating him her "enemy". And that change in perception, believe me, takes a lot of malignant misbehavior over many years!

Physical and emotional abuse is only the beginning of Asa's mistreatment of his long-suffering wife. Eventually he seduces a serving woman, whom he sends away when confronted. Then he attempts to rape another serving woman. He forces incest, over a period of sixteen months, on his own eldest daughter. He brutalizes all of his ten children in one way or another. When Abigail finally, against all the habits of her mind and the norms of her community, demands a separation, Asa does his utmost to deprive her and her children of any share of the family property. But Abigail, once aroused, is a dauntless fighter of Old Testament vigor. And Asa, seen through Abigail's account, is as hateful a hypocrite and domestic tyrant as any in literature.

Edited first by her local minister and published at the request of friends in 1815, after her death, Abigail Abbot Bailey's memoirs were the earliest public record of domestic violence in America. As such, the memoirs are an invaluable source of historical insight into the lives of Americans in the era of the Revolution. The years of Abigail's marriage, covered in her memoirs, were from 1767 to 1792. Students of that era could find no clearer depiction than this of the attitudes of New Englanders toward divorce, respectability, privacy, adultery, communal property, and patriarchy than this.

The Memoirs might also be regarded as the first great novel in American literature, assuming that a "novel" doesn't need to be pure fiction. Abigail's story is extremely dramatic and touching, and arrives at a film-worthy climax in her escape from her husband's fiendish plot to carry her off, without her children, to the wilds of back-country New York. Abigail wrote well, amazingly well, or else her first publisher/minister was an editorial genius. The narrative of Abigail's travails and eventual resistance is skillfully interpolated into Abigail's ecstatic sermon on the mercies of her omniscient and omnipotent God, so that her depiction of events and her scripture-based interpretations of those events are in thoughtful equipoise. Abigail knew her scriptures well! She read her Bible daily and she found solace therein, and she quotes verse after verse both to shed light on her own decisions and to enlighten the Reader for the betterment of his/her soul. I suppose many modern readers will be impatient with Abigail's sermonizing piety, but it's central to the narrative. It was the 'submission' taught to her by her religion - submission to God first, but also to her condition as a married woman - that explains Abigail's behavior, her unwillingness to turn against Asa or to ruin his status in the community. From a modern sociological point of view, Abigail was certainly a 'co-dependent', a woman who passively allowed herself and her children to suffer outrageous abuse. Even then, there's a suggestion that her neighbors and co-religionists regarded her behavior with disapproval, both before her divorce, for allowing her husband to get away with incest, and after her divorce, for defying the patriarchal conventions of property. If Abigail's 'lessons' in covenant theology become tiresome, the reader can easily enough skim through them and follow the story.

That story, stripped of its scriptural verbiage, is shockingly familiar. Modern. Right next door to many families in America today. The statistics of child and spousal abuse throughout the USA, particularly in communities that assert their righteous conservatism, prove that fervid religiosity and domestic violence are as odiously comfortable together as they were in the 1780s.

A deep historic, but contemporary look at domestic violence
Abigail Bailey keeps a diary of her thoughts and feelings relating to her abusive marriage. Abigail's perspective is historic, as she lived in New England in the early foundations of America, but also contemporary, as she writes of the pains, hopes, and struggles of living with an abusive husband. Abigail Bailey's faith played an integral part of her decision-making process, and anyone who wants to understand how Christianity and spirituality contributes to the plight of the abused wife is urged to read this book. It gives a birds-eye view of the inner dynamics of the abusive relationship and Christianity's relationship to those dynamics. While the memoirs stand on their own, the editor does a thourough job of explaining the social, political, and historical contexts of Abigail's life. The only downfall is that it is "heavy" reading, as the language Abigail used is old-English, and one may need to labor more than usual in reading and interpeting it. It is well worth it, though! ... Read more

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Evidence is mounting that animal abuse, frequently embedded infamilies scarred by domestic violence and child abuse and neglect,often predicts the potential for other violent acts.As earlyintervention is critical in the prevention and reduction ofaggression, this book encourages researchers and professionals torecognize animal abuse as a significant problem and a humanpublic-health issue that should be included as a curriculum topic intraining.The book is an interdisciplinary sourcebook of originalessays that examine the relations between animal maltreatment andhuman interpersonal violence, expand the scope of research in thisgrowing area, and provide practical assessment and documentationstrategies to help professionals confronting violence do their jobsbetter by attending to these connections.

This book brings together, for the first time, all of the leaders in this emerging field.They examine contemporary research and programmatic issues, encourage cross-disciplinary interactions, and describe innovative programs in the field today.The book also includes vivid first-person accounts from "survivors" whose experience included animal maltreatment among other forms of family violence. ... Read more

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Thorough Review of Literature
This book is very abundant in resarch and exploration of the link between animal abuse and intimate violence.Addtionally, they focus on children and pet-care programs in the latter part of the book.This portion is signifcant since these programs assist in preventing further domestic violence and animal abuse.Frank Ascione and Phil Arkow produced a very good book, and this book should be read by all within the domestic violence field, vetererians, and law enforcement officials. ... Read more

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Public awareness regarding the life-threatening nature and intense traumatic impactof domestic violence has substantially increased in the past decade. At the same time, dramatic changes have taken place regarding criminal justice and social work policies and practices applied to domestic violence intervention. And while the prevalence of domestic violence has declined slightly, national estimates still indicate that every year, approximately eight million women are abused, battered, stalked, or killed by their husbands, boyfriends, and other intimate partners. Featuring cutting-edge research and expert intervention strategies, theHandbook of Domestic Violence Intervention Strategies: Policies, Programs, and Legal Remediesis designed to prepare professionals to swiftly and compassionately meet the multiple needs of women and children who have suffered from domestic violence. This original and indispensable volume focuses on the numerous advances in legal remedies, program developments, treatment protocols, and multidisciplinary perspectives. It is a comprehensive guide to the latest research, public policies, and legal and criminal justice responses, covering federal and state legislation as well as trends in police and court responses to domestic violence. This is the first book to include court-based technology developments and new research related to the duration and intensity of woman battering. Highlighting actual cases and promising programs, the handbook also addresses important social work issues, including risk assessment protocols, a new five level continuum of woman battering, intervention methods, and treatment models. The book also examines the myriad legal issues and health problems facing the most neglected and vulnerable battered women. Written by expert practitioners and leading scholars in the field, the book's 23 chapters provide rich insights into the complexities and challenges of addressing domestic violence. This timely and definitive handbook is recommended for students, clinicians, policy makers, and researchers in the fields of social work, victim services, criminal justice, hospital administration, mental health counseling, public health, pastoral counseling, law enforcement. In fact, this volume is a critical resource for all helping professionals who are assisting abused women in escaping and remaining free from violent relationships. ... Read more

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Handbook of domestic Violence Intervention Strategies: Policies, Programs, and Legal Remedies
This is a very informative book.I learned things I needed to know.I feel that those who are victums of Domestic Violence could be possibly helped by the information in this book.P. H.

An Excellent Resource
The Handbook of Intervention Strategies with Domestic Violence Strategies covers public policy, the justice system, health care, crisis intervention, advocacy, and special at risk groups. This book provides a comprehensive overview of domestic violence using research, case studies, theory, and social data. I would recommend this book to social workers, lawyers, judges, counselors, and law enforcement personnel. The book is insightful and easy to read. ... Read more

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This book draws on interviews carried out over a period of eight years, as well as novels, films, and domestic violence literature, to explain the role of storytelling in the history of the battered women’s movement. The author shows how cultural contexts shape how stories about domestic abuse get told, and offers critical tools for bringing psychology into discussions of group dynamics in the domestic violence field.

The book enlists psychoanalytic-feminist theory to analyse storytelling practices and to re-visit four areas of tension in the movement where signs of battle fatigue have been most acute. These areas include the conflicts that emerge between the battered women’s movement and the state, the complex relationship between domestic violence and other social problems, and the question of whether woman battering is a special case that differs from other forms of social violence. The volume also looks at the tensions between groups of women within the movement, and how to address differences based on race, class or other dimensions of power. Finally, the book explores the contentious issue of how to acknowledge forms of female aggression while still preserving a gender analysis of intimate partner violence.

In attending to narrative dynamics in the history of domestic violence work, Hard Knocks presents a radical re-reading of the contribution of psychology to feminist interventions and activism. The book is ideal reading for scholars, activists, advocates and policy planners involved in domestic violence, and is suitable for students of psychology, social work, sociology and criminology.

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Offers a guide for parents, friends, families, and acquaintances as to what they can do to help a battered woman and presents a checklist that describes what a battered woman can do to help herself. Original. 50,000 first printing. Tour." ... Read more

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A Potential Lifesaver Needed as Much Now as Ever
In this book, Lou Brown hits the nail on the head in his treatis ofhow serious domestic violence has gotten since losing his beautiful daughter, Nicole Brown on that tragic night in June 1994. Given the rising unemployment in this country, it's a book that is needed as much now as it ever was, since domestic violence is likely to grow worse as unemployment keeps rising, and tragically, several police officers died responding to a domestic violence in Pittsburgh,PA this week. I bought my copy specifically for a police chief in my town to use in developing a program to combat domestic violence.

World Peace Begins At Home - There Is No Excuse For Abuse
Stop Domestic Violence was written more than ten years ago and it is still the number one classic about the need for domestic anti-violence education. If you know anyone who is trying to help a victim or knows someone is trying to get out of an abusive ralationship, this book will answer your questions and will save lives.

The PeaceClinic now posts this book on the recommended reading list for the first ever Peace Practitioners Workshop on Applied Peace Technology. Cudos to the authors, Lou Brown (father of Nicole Brown Simpson), Merritt McKeon, and Francois Dubau.

As Denise Brown, Founder of the Nicole Brown Charitable Foundation has said, there is no excuse for abuse.She and the authors have inspired my own work for inner peace, domestic peace, and world peace. This book can help us save lives.

~ Chloe Joquel Freeland
Founding Director, The PeaceClinic
World Peace Begins At Home

It works, and it does save lives.
I am one of the authors, and wanted to update my comments from 1997.I am now a full time attorney - my email is mlm@laislaw.com

I have gotten many faxes, calls, letters, emails etc. from survivors and family members who tell methat the book really gave them the tools they needed to stay safe andrecover.

It's not a book to buy and give to a victim - it is one to buyand READ, so that you can help a victim when she asks for help.Read it,then share it.

Merritt

Excellent characterization of abused spouses.
I saw myself in the pages."Learned helplessness" is a phenomenon that is very difficult to understand if you are not a victim.Additionally, our court system (for lack of a better term) is wellrepresented.This well written book validated my decisions as I hope itwill for others.Thank you. ... Read more

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"This is a thoughtful and scholarly addition to the unfortunately scarce literature on domestic violence and oppression in all its forms."—Jacquelyn C. Campbell, Anna D. Wolf Chair, Johns Hopkins University School of Nursing

"An exciting and powerful collection that eloquently critiques some of the current thinking in domestic violence and raises key concerns for advocates and scholars working in the area."—Sujata Warrier, president, board of directors, Manavi: An organization for South Asian women

"Sokoloff has assembled an impressive array of authors who challenge us to ‘think outside of our contemporary domestic violence box.’"—Angela M. Moore Parmley, chief, violence and victimization research division, National Institute of Justice

This groundbreaking anthology reorients the field of domestic violence research by bringing long-overdue attention to the structural forms of oppression in communities marginalized by race, ethnicity, religion, sexuality, or social class.

Reprints of the most influential recent work in the field as well as more than a dozen newly commissioned essays explore theoretical issues, current research, service provision, and activism among Latinos, African Americans, Asian Americans, Jewish Americans, and lesbians. The volume rejects simplistic analyses of the role of culture in domestic violence by elucidating the support systems available to battered women within different cultures, while at the same time addressing the distinct problems generated by that culture. Together, the essays pose a compelling challenge to stereotypical images of battered women that are racist, homophobic, and xenophobic.

The most up-to-date and comprehensive picture of domestic violence available, this anthology is an essential text for courses in sociology, criminology, social work, and women’s studies. Beyond the classroom, it provides critical information and resources for professionals working in domestic violence services, advocacy, social work, and law enforcement. ... Read more

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This handbook not only provides a clear introduction to the theoretical debates surrounding domestic violence but also offers practical advice on possible interventions. focussing on improving the care of clients. Taking the evidence-based approach ... Read more